After the Birth


The postpartum period can be experienced in many ways by different mothers and families. Like our pregnancies and births, each one is utterly unique, yet there are some common experiences, as well

It is magical but it also has many challenges.

For most parents, especially first-time parents, the time is very surreal.

Inwardly, time feels warped. Most of what we usually identify with is stripped away, as we take time to stay home, recover and bond; and some parts of our identity are forever changed. Outwardly, we have this new, incredible, miraculous and utterly dependent being who has just appeared in our lives. One day we are not yet parents and the next day we are parents. It is a lot of transition to take in at once.

Then there is our birth to process. It is a totally ordinary (it happens about 350,000 per day!) and yet completely extraordinary experience that is the very essence of life itself; iconic, archetypal and raw. It may be peaceful, powerful, overwhelming, traumatic, orgasmic or anything in between and all of the above. Any way it unfolds, it is ours and our family's to digest and own.

The postpartum time asks a lot of us-

to grow, stretch, rest, resource, reach out and go inward.

Here are some guidelines that I followed and that I like to offer to my [yoga] students and [doula] clients.

Many are based on very long traditions, especially from Auyrveda and Traditional Chinese Medicine.

* Plan for a 'lying in' period

Many diverse traditions call for a 40 day period of rest following birth. For some, it is 100 days.

Laura Todaro, my homebirth class teacher, suggested staying in bed for 2 weeks, which I found to be about right. Follow this by staying at home for another two weeks or more. First outings should be very small; literally a walk around the block, and not alone, if possible. These incremental steps out into the world are important for both mother and baby.

* Take a media fast

Aside from sending out an email or phone call about your exciting news, stay away from your computer and phone for a little while. Turn off the ringer on all your phones. Put a vacation response on your email. Be discerning about what you chose to see and hear. Ten days, five days, two weeks? Decide what feels right to you and your family.

* Create a Sacred Space

The whole family is vulnerable during the huge adjustment period after a new baby is born. Be discerning about who comes into your space. Just like your birth, be sure that the people who are around you are there to unconditionally help and support you; that you won't need to host or 'take care' of them, or worse, ward off negativity.

* Eat Warm, Nourishing foods

From traditional health perspectives, after a woman gives birth, there is an excess of the qualities of ‘space’ and ‘air’, both of which need to be countered with ‘earth’. The digestive system is slow both physiologically and energetically, so favor foods that are warm, easy to digest and high in nutrient density. Choose soups and stews, bone broths, slow cooked oats and grains, and well-cooked root vegetables. Coconut milk, avocados and eggs are great for building energy and strength. Adding some fermented foods, like a bit of yogurt or pickled veggies, can help with digestion. Have plenty of warm liquids on hand- thermoses of tea all over the house! Some wonderful resources for nutrient dense, easy to digest, prepared food is Three Stone Hearth, Mama Tong and The Kitchen Doula. Check out the book Nourishing Traditions to learn about the traditional foods/nutrient-dense philosophy.

* Ask for and Receive Help

This is a great time to practice asking for and receiving help. I say ‘practice’ because this is challenging for most people. You have done an incredible feat of carrying and birthing your baby- it’s time for you and your family to be taken care of as much as possible! This is totally normal and expected in most traditional cultures. It’s a strange modern thing for us to be so on our own. Let the village come together for you, if possible.

-Ask a friend to organize a ‘meal train’. It’s becoming so common now, that there are websites to make the organization easy; try mealtrain.com or mealbaby.com

-Hire a postpartum Doula, if you don’t have friends and family around- or even if you do!

-When people ask if they can help, say “Yes!” Keep a list going of things you could use a hand with, then you can give them specific ideas of ways to help. This usually makes it easier for the helper and more effective for you!

* Know your Internal and External Resources

Make a list , before your baby is born, of your Internal and External Resources so that you can turn to it when you are feeling stretched thin- or before!

Internal: What makes you feel calm, relaxed, joyful, connected to yourself and others?

Yoga?

Meditation?

A warm bath?

Candlelight?

Listening to particular music or recordings?

Quiet?

Being in the Sunshine?

Rest?

External: Who can you call or talk to for support?

Friends?

Family?

Therapists?

Plan to work these things into your days. Even just 5-10 minutes once or twice a day can make a big difference. They are essential for health, healing and parenting!

#birth #nutrition #selfcare

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